Toxic people are usually unstable or abusive. They drain your energy and never seem to show you any support. Not everyone is aware they’re being toxic, and some are just emotionally unreliable. However, you need to set boundaries in order to protect yourself. While you may care about others, you and your mental health matter just as much. Here are three tips for taking your power back from toxic people:
Everyone should be able to clearly state their boundaries. If you don’t know what your boundaries are, you won’t be able to enforce them. Take time to contemplate what you can tolerate and what you can’t tolerate. These things may differ from one person to another. For instance, one person might be forgiving of someone who is late. Others, however, are deeply upset or insulted by a lack of punctuality. Don’t worry about others thinking your boundaries are strict. You will naturally attract people of a similar mindset into your life once you begin enforcing your boundaries. Abuse comes in many forms. It’s possible that a toxic person in your life is also abusing you. Make sure to learn about the different types of abuse in order to protect yourself from it. You should never allow someone to continue abusing you. You can have a talk with them about the inappropriate behaviour and give them a chance to change, but if they continue the behaviour, you’ll need to let them go.
Build Your Confidence
Toxic people have a tendency to chip away at your confidence. Once you become aware of how to build confidence, you can protect yourself from their attacks on your self-esteem. For those who have already lost confidence, you can restore it. Working on your confidence is an act of taking your power back from toxic people. You have recognized that the only person in charge of your confidence is you. It’s empowering to realize this. Some ways you can build your confidence include affirmations, positive self-talk, cognitive reframing, getting outside of your comfort zone often, learning something new and saying “no” when you know that’s what you want to say.
Commit to Change
Many people have initial resistance to change. Even when a person is in a bad situation, they become used to it. This is why it can feel scary and uncomfortable in the beginning to move into a better situation even when you know it’s good for you. Rest assured that your feelings of discomfort won’t last long. You will soon become used to honouring your boundaries and maintaining your power. Commit yourself to becoming a confident person and taking care of yourself. Be forgiving of yourself when you make mistakes along the way, and trust that you will get the hang of it.
You can choose to take your power back at any time you want. Although you might feel powerless, the truth is you aren’t. By implementing the three tips above, you can successfully reclaim your power from toxic individuals and never lose it again.